Why is breastfeeding STILL such an issue? PETER SLEE and SOPHIE WIGGINS report
"I was breastfeeding my daughter in a cafe when it happened — she was covered in a blanket,' says Hayley Hewson from Skewen.
"But one of the staff came over and told me I'd either have to stop or move to the back of the restaurant.
"I've sat on toilet seats in cubicles and taken 20 items of clothing to 'try on' into changing rooms, just so I can feed, because there's nowhere else."
Then there is Emma Cartwright, from Upper Killay, who recalls the time she discreetly tried to feed her son in a "family-friendly" pub until a woman told her she "shouldn't do that in front of other people's husbands because it's obscene".
Anyone who thought breastfeeding in public is no longer a contentious and provocative issue should think again.
Polls show as many as 60 per cent feel that the UK frowns on breastfeeding mothers. Two thirds of breastfeeding mums maintain that feeding their baby in public had been a stressful experience, and more than half of these had been asked to move out of a restaurant, cafe or coffee shop when they were feeding.
These figures might go a long way to explain the official statistics on how many women actually breastfeed in Britain.
According to one survey, just 78 per cent of new mothers ever attempt breastfeeding, compared with 99 per cent in Norway, 91 per cent in Italy and 84 per cent in Spain.
In Wales, just 67 per cent of new mums breastfeed.
By six months, only 22 per cent of UK mothers are still doing it. Of course for some people, a woman with a newborn at her breast is seen as the quintessential image of new motherhood, the natural way to bond.
Moreover, thanks to high-profile government campaigns, we are more aware than ever of the health benefits for both baby and mother. These include protection against childhood infections, obesity and allergies, as well as lowering the risk of cancer and diabetes for the baby. And for the mother, there is protection against breast and ovarian cancers, osteoporosis, heart disease and stroke. And yet for many other people, it remains something that is unpleasant or even physically repugnant that should be hidden away.
Claire Holness from Ynystawe, mum to a seven-and-a-half-month-old baby, says for others, even embracing breastfeeding from the start can sometimes be tough.
"My daughter, Bethan, didn't really take to it straight away. But, eventually — and with help — it all worked out."
Claire, aged 32, says: "I think one of the main issues for a lot of women is that they are simply not aware of the support there is out there if they run into trouble breastfeeding.
"But there really is. I was ready to give up more than once. But with determination and a bit of perseverance, it is achievable."
Claire, who volunteers as a peer support worker helping new mums having trouble feeding their babies, says it isn't for everyone and women should not be forced into thinking they have to do it at all costs.
"If they don't want to — for whatever reason — that is up to them. It doesn't mean they have 'failed' or they are a bad mother.
"It can reduce women to tears. But it needn't, and shouldn't, be like that and with good support, most issues can be resolved."
A new weekly breastfeeding group has now also just been set up at Swansea's promenade 360 café .
Launched by midwifery lecturer Eleanor Healer and other midwifery lecturers in the midwifery department at Swansea University, it is being run by midwifery students up to date with best practice in breastfeeding skills.
Eleanor says they are excited to have developed a student-led breastfeeding support group "to give support for women within the local community.
"We hope that women who have chosen to breastfeed will attend this new group, regardless of the age of their baby.
"They can expect a friendly and relaxed environment where the aim is for second and third year student midwives to provide advice and support to mothers; this will include providing women with help and advice should they find themselves struggling with aspects of breastfeeding. ''
Louise Edwards from Neath who attended the first session is currently 31 weeks pregnant and says she welcomes its rather more informal stance.
"I had been expecting something of a lecture. Instead, what we got was information handed over in a very relaxed and chilled atmosphere with very warm and friendly student midwifes. It is definitely something I would recommend to other expecting mothers, other mothers and children and their partners. I know where I can go if I need help and support during my pregnancy and afterwards."
Amy Harvey from Swansea who also attended the breastfeeding group attended with her 6 month old baby Oscar. "It has given me the confidence to breastfeed in public,'' she adds.
"I just wish it had existed before."
Cathy Kirk, from Cockett in Swansea, who had feeding problems when her son was born 18 months ago, says she thinks there are many reasons why we're lagging behind much of Europe.
"First, the Mediterranean countries and Scandinavia have much more of a family culture," she says.
"Parents and children are seen out together far more at restaurants in the evening; in the UK, there's still a residual 'children should be seen and not heard' approach.
"Then there's the British attitude that breasts are for sex, not for babies, coupled with the fact that many women just aren't as confident in their bodies as women are in other areas of Europe.
"And finally, breastfeeding is a generational thing — if you've never seen your mum or aunts breastfeed, it's hard to start doing so yourself.
"My mum breastfed me, and my NHS antenatal class convinced me of the overwhelming health benefits. Luckily, my son took to it straight away.
"Until the British public decides to embrace breastfeeding, it's down to mothers to stand our ground.
"When he was a month old, my husband and I decided to take Jac out for lunch for the first time, to a local pizza place.
"I started to feed him, very discreetly. Suddenly, I got the feeling everyone was staring at me, as if I were doing something inappropriate.
"I started to feel incredibly stressed, and my baby could sense my tension and slowed down his feed. My husband encouraged me to continue, but I felt like bursting into tears.
"Since then, I've changed the way I organise my day," she says.
"I avoid going out at feeding times, and only go to specific 'baby friendly' cafes.
"The public's attitude has affected my friends, too — several of them now feed their baby with formula milk during the day, and only breastfeed at home at night, precisely because they hate that kind of reaction.
"I think that the biggest change in attitude has to come from the public. Then, just maybe, not as many mothers would feel quite so isolated.
"We are planning for another baby in a few months and I've promised myself I will breastfeed wherever I want to.
"I'm just going to get on with it, and simply smile back at anyone who stares until they stop looking at me!"
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